More issues I've had to deal with
The system doesn't care WHO is
actually paying the support
As I stated on my story page, my ex-wife informed me in April
of 2006 that she wanted a divorce. In July of that year she became pregnant by
another man while we were still technically married. In September, our divorce was
finalized. Child support had been determined and set in place. In the
beginning of 2007, my ex was instructed by her doctor to cut down on her work hours due to
complications with her pregnancy. A little while later she was instructed to leave
work and stay at home for the remainder of the pregnancy due to more complications.
My ex tried to apply for some financial aid from the county to help her out during that
time and the first thing they did for her was suggest to try raising MY child support
obligation.
NOW HOLD ON! IT'S NOT EVEN MY KID. Why wasn't
their first response to try to get the biological father of her unborn child to pay
something? Why are they so unwilling to hand out aid that they would rather try to
get an uninvolved party (ME) to pay for her inability to work? How did her pregnancy
by some other guy somehow become MY responsibility? She didn't even lie to them
about whose it was. Fortunately for me, my ex also thought it was ludicrous to make
ME have to pay for someone else's child and so she didn't allow it. The county ended
up dishing out the aid she was requesting.
APPARENTLY, the Child Support system can actually do such a
thing or else they wouldn't have suggested it. From what I understand, they would
have had a lot of red tape to go through to prove that the biological father actually WAS
the biological father (paternity test) before they could make him pay child support and
since she was now financially burdened and couldn't support herself, it was much easier
and simpler to just make an already paying obligor to pay more.
WTF? Where's the justice in that? She came to
them for aid. What in the hell is the problem with them distributing aid and then
later recovering it from the REAL father once that's been established? You know damn
well that they wouldn't allow ME to be reimbursed later. Their argument that I
should pay more was because our joint children would be affected by her lack of income.
Although this is true, it's STILL NOT MY FAULT OR OBLIGATION.
Besides, there are a lot of other options.
For one, get money from the actual father of the kid.
Two, just pay out the aid (that's what it's for)
Three, pay out the aid, but recover it later from the actual father.
Four, allow the joint children to temporarily stay with me (their father) until she can
support herself again
In any event, there's no reason that I should have to pay
more money to support my ex while she's pregnant with someone else's kid. You might
argue that society shouldn't pay for it either, and I might even agree with you, but why
do we have these services then if they are not there to actually help people? I'm
just a father. I'M NOT THE WELFARE SYSTEM.
And yet another example of how the
system doesn't care WHO is actually paying the support
Like I stated earlier, my ex-wife decided to divorce me in April. She got pregnant
in July. The divorce was finalized in Sept. My ex applied for some medical
coverage through the county because she was no longer covered under my insurance due to
the divorce. Upon doing so, she had to prove that I wasn't the father of her unborn
child, so I had to sign a form called the "Recognition of Parentage Husband's
Non-paternity Statement". This was because the child was due to be born in less
than 9 months of our divorce, and they wanted proof that it wasn't my child. I
filled out and signed the Non-paternity Statement and the real father later took a
paternity test and proved that it was his child. My ex mailed in all of these legal
papers at the same time together in the same envelope.
OK, a lot of legal B.S. was now taken care of. Nearly
one year later, I was called by my ex and was told by her that I had to fill out the
Non-Paternity Statement AGAIN, because they lost the old paperwork. She was
instructed by the county that if I didn't submit another Statement, that they would start
making me pay child support for her newly born son (which isn't mine). You can
imagine my astonishment when she informed me of that. No fathers name is even on the
birth certificate and even if there was, it certainly wasn't MINE. I said,
"What about the paternity test?". She said that they lost that too.
So I met up with her the next day because she had the form that I had to fill out
again. It was then that she told me that she called the county back and found out
that they hadn't lost the fathers paternity test. They only lost my Non-Paternity
Statement.
SO HOLD ON ONCE AGAIN! Let us get this straight.
They have a paternity test that PROVES WITHOUT A DOUBT who the father actually is,
and that I'm NOT the father, yet they are threatening to start docking my pay for more
child support even though THEY KNOW I'M NOT THE FATHER simply because they lost the
Non-Paternity Statement?
WTF AGAIN. Who the hell are these people? What
kind of ridiculous, deceitful laws do we have in place that can possibly allow them to do
that? And why are they contacting my ex about this matter AND NOT ME? They
didn't even inform ME that the paperwork was lost or that I could possibly have to pay
child support OR ANYTHING. The only reason I know is because my ex was a decent
enough person to tell me about it. Imagine if she wasn't honest and decided to go
back to the county and tell them that I wouldn't sign the paper for whatever reason she
may have made up. I MIGHT NOW BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A
CHILD THAT ISN'T MINE EVEN THOUGH THEY KNOW IT'S NOT MINE AND THEY KNOW WHO THE ACTUAL FATHER IS!
And people wonder why divorces and child support cases get
so out of hand...
I can't write any more. This is pissing me off too
much.................
Here's a good story on Paternity
Fraud. I agree with it completely.
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